Sometimes all we see is the black and white of a situation. Either something went well, or it was a complete failure. Thinking in those extremes is tough. We always win or lose. We don’t give ourselves the opportunity to think in shades of grey. That is, maybe we didn’t do something perfectly, but we did a good enough job and got the task done.
Rather than focusing on how we didn’t do the task perfectly, we can choose to focus on how we got it done. There’s always an accomplishment or lesson learned. We just have to look for it by thinking in shades of grey.